Since both my sister and my mother have posted about their Sunday adventures I figured I’d add mine to the bunch.
Our Lord is amazing. No, it’s not just that. He has a sense of humor. Sometimes he sends a little blessing to make you realize all our worries about details count for nothing compared to what he can do. Maybe you call it coincidence, but I think God brings people together on purpose in odd ways and looks down with a great big smile when we’re surprised that he can and does act in our lives.
It started like a normal Sunday only I had a bit of the jitters because I was playing while on In Christ Alone. Performing doesn’t bother me, but I’d planned to improvise, and I’m not experienced in it so that makes me nervous. After a brief, but good rehearsal we entered another glorious morning of worship and fellowship with God and his children. I love Sundays. I love church. I don’t love having to sit on my hands so I don’t freak people out by jumping up and down and waving my arms to the Lord. It used to scare me, so I try not to scare others.
In the greeting period (I still wish churches would forget the fancy terms and just say the peace!) I met a Swiss couple I hadn’t seen before but apparently didn’t make myself clear as to my situation in Switzerland. The congregation was asked to introduce visitors and we were introduced to a family visiting in order for their daughter to audition at the Musik Akademie. Of course I planned to make a beeline to them after the service, but then to my surprise the dear lady I’d just met stood up to introduce me thinking I was a visitor! I felt terrible for her and another member sitting nearby gently corrected her, but asked me to stand up and share the news with the congregation that I’d just divulged to him during the peace! How embarrassing, and now everyone is expecting me to come back to Basel. They better remember to pray, because I do want to come back. To make things more akward the reading of the day was scheduled right after the peace and it just so happened that I was scheduled to read that day! The leader did a good job of relieving the potential tension by noting that to show how quickly newcomers are integrated into the fellowship the reading for today will be done by Janet Wightman. The church had a good laugh.
The excuse given for having me read again so soon was that I’m good at reading long passages. I think having just done a long reading a few weeks earlier is an excuse for reading less often, but lucky for me I don’t mind, and actually enjoy reading in church. I didn’t realize quite how long Daniel 4 was until I was up there, and up there, and up there, then was only half way through. Thankfully I managed to avoid the slip I often make, by calling the magicians musicians.
After another 45 minute sermon I could pay attention to and learn from (I’m not abandoning you, oh my Episcopalian friends) I stood up to play In Christ Alone. It’s a great song, but hard to sing, so I was grateful that I was asked to play. Consequently I was no preparing myself emotionally to sing the words and was caught off guard when the leader read the last verse and I burst into tears saving myself the embarrassment of observation by turning my back on the congregation. This is why. Isaac’s first cry was just before his death. That makes “From life's first cry to final breath” difficult to sing, though it makes the whole verse a lovely and comforting one.
No guilt in life, no fear in death,
This is the power of Christ in me;
From life's first cry to final breath.
Jesus commands my destiny.
No power of hell, no scheme of man,
Can ever pluck me from His hand;
Till He returns or calls me home,
Here in the power of Christ I'll stand.
I recovered and played well enough and enjoyed it even though I was sharp. I thought I’d brought my tunable whistle to Basel, but I guess not.
Talking with the family (I won’t divulge their name yet since I don’t have permission) after the service was a delight. I clicked with their daughter M who is taking the audition on flute. Suspicions that they had homeschooled came to mind early, but didn’t come out until I pried it out of them later. I was happy to be able to help them with questions, though I don’t know how the school really works either. Among the random things we have in common are enjoying theological discussion, choosing not to practice on Sunday, and of course homeschooling which opens up a whole other realm. Also fascinating is that she’s interested in Renaissance and Baroque dance and I invited her to my classes. I love it when God sends a random person in my life to help me, but it’s also very fun to be that random person to help another! It doesn’t sound as interesting as I write it, but I must say after being in a place where homeschooling is all but unheard of it was nice to be in understanding company again. Most of the hang-out-after-church crowd was away, but the family was planning on a picnic so Stephan and I crashed it. It was lovely and sunny and cool and interesting. I could tell they were guarding their words in sensitivity to us that we might not find them too strange. That’s why I had to pry the homeschooling out. I know they have more interesting ideas and beliefs but it’s such a pity that in this world of embracing ‘diversity’ people who are really quite different feel unable to show it because people often don’t know how to react to someone who thinks differently. I’ll admit they seem odd, but that just means I haven’t thought outside the box in certain areas yet! It would be fun if they decide to move to Basel. Anyway, once I pried out of them that they were homeschooled (you know how we can identify each other - we're unsocialized-lol) we mouthed off together about the interesting treatment we’ve received, especially pertaining to socialization. It was insensitive of me to enjoy the camaraderie without thinking of how Stephan might feel, even though I know he's not comfortable with homeschooling yet. I’ve been careful not to say too much about it to those unfamiliar, but I forgot myself in this context and became rather animated. Imagine that. ;) Thankfully he expressed his feelings and I apologized and offered to discuss his concerns over coffee right then as the family had to get to a concert anyway. Oh, how self-sacrificial of me to be willing to talk about homeschooling . . . ;) I’m very out of practice talking about homeschooling to someone unfamiliar with it. I haven’t had someone interested enough in it to actually listen in a long time. I think I did a better job expressing myself in German for class! He was nice about it and I don’t think I scared him too badly. Now I hope his comment to this post makes more sense.
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Well done! I still can't sing In Christ Alone, though I've come to love it. I can get through most of it, but never the last verse. Unfair of him to pick that one to read!
About the diversity/thinking differently, earlier today, a co-worker (Marc) wondered out loud if I knew that I am way outside the normal distribution, and proceeded to draw a picture on my white board putting a small X out on a tail of a standard deviation graph.
I asked him what the axis was, and I forget his first answer was, but his final answer was "hippyness" - so I thought that was an alright axis to be on - although I suppose it has worse connotations for those "older" folks.
(Firefox's auto-spelling correction says that hippyness isn't a word, but says that
hipnesses is)
PS. Janet, I took the liberty of publishing trackbacks to the articles you mentioned, since I thought it would be good if there was one for the Isaac post, and since I was hitting the button, I figured I might as well hit them all. (If you link to your mom's or our blog when writing a post in the future, you can simply hit the "send trackbacks" button when you write your post, and it will automatically add a comment to the posts you link to with a link back to the post you are writing)
Hmmm, what is "hippyness" and were you on the high or low tail? When I first read it, I thought you meant "happiness." Did he mean "hipness"? Doesn't seem to me you are into all the latest trends, nor want to be. Maybe he really did mean "hippy - ness," as in like a hippie, but I can't see you wearing beads with a flower behind your ear. Besides, that was my era, not yours. I'm still going with "happiness," which makes sense to me.
In many things, "outside the normal distribution" is a good thing. :)
I'd say your public school background left you deficient in socialization, but Stephan has been beat up enough over that issue. Poor man, he didn't know what a land mine he was stepping on. Actually, I've had new thoughts about the whole S-word issue, which will result in a blog post I'm sure, but that's what I've been doing all day, and I have to get away from the computer now....
But since he grew up in small town New Hampshire, with a social mother and her disposition, he really did well in true socialization (getting along with people of all ages.) We were just talking about this last night, though not in context of "socialization."
The Facebook group "Yes! I was a Homeschooler, and I've got your 'social skills' right here!" bears the following description: For those privileged few who had the honor of being homeschooled properly and are tired of that old "but your social skills are probably underdeveloped" comment, as if any person who would say something like that in casual conversation has any idea what social skills should look or sound like. As the type of people to use "sir" and "ma'am" in regular speech, speak multi-syllabically, and express ourselves both articulately and politely, we harbor the suspicion that "social skills" to the general public has something to do with being able to use profanity as vocal filler.
Okay, okay, I'll work on that socialization post! Li'l Writer Guy made a good start on it while I went for a walk this evening, then I drove him away with a trip to Home Depot, where we spent $50 on plants, potting soil, etc., and to The Hated W-Store, where we didn't spent $40 on a new toaster oven, because they were all out of the model I wanted. Actually, no one has the model I want, which apparently doesn't exist. I'd like one that will last more than six months, won't burst spontaneously into flames at random moments, and actually makes toast and bakes small items. Reading the reviews it appears all toaster ovens these days can't be counted on to meet those requirements, so we might as well go with inexpensive. Being not made in China would be a plus, but seems hopeless. I would happily pay more for a guarantee of a quality product, but I'm giving up on that. There really is a need for a middle ground, somewhere in between Wal-Mart cheap and the $750 coffee maker I saw the other day. It was a very nice coffee maker, and the bottom-of-the-line of its kind....
But I'll give you a hint about my socialization thoughts: I'd always thought that what is meant by the term is what Heather and Andy have mentioned, but my trip to Europe and some reading have convinced me that some people mean something very different entirely, something homeschoolers are, indeed, often very bad at....
$750 for a coffee maker?!!! I tell you WHAT, for $750 it darn well better grow the beans itself, roast them, grind them, brew them in spring water, and deliver the result intravenously just as I'm waking up—and be able to give a good massage too!! As for the toaster oven... it sounds like your demands are simply unreasonable. "Yeah, we can MAKE a non-spontaneously-combusting model... but it's gonna *cost* you...."
I can see where someone might call Jon a hippie even though he doesn't dress like one: organic coops, natural childbirth, need I go further? I don't understand the need to categorize, though. Jon is unlike anyone I know. About trackbacks, I have something against them and I'm not sure why. Thanks for putting them in. Maybe I'll get used to them someday. Mom, was the coffee maker Nespresso?
Andy, the coffee maker almost does all that. I don't remember the brand, but it wasn't a Nespresso. It was Swiss, though. Here are links to some similar machines so you get an idea of what you can spend if you want really, really good coffee: a
low-end model at a mere one grand, and
one that will cost you twice that. If the price bothers you, note that these items quailfy for free Super Saver Shipping at Amazon. Both are Swiss.
To be fair to the owners, the version I saw was originally bought for a commercial establishment, where they coudn't just send their customers out to the nearest Starbucks.
I think what you have against trackbacks is that they sometimes show up double on our blogs and I have to go in and delete the extra one. I don't know what's going on, but it doesn't bother me to delete them, so go for it. It's a little confusing when you have lots of links in your post and have to wade through all the pictures to find the sites you want to trackback to (usually yours, mine, or Daley Ponderings; most of the sites I link to don't accept trackbacks). But it's not that hard once you get used to it.
Janet's right about Jon: he's unique, and I hope he knows that coming from me that's a compliment. He's right about the "hippie" label having worse connotations for us geezers. I've often said that you can only be nostalgic for the 60's if you didn't have to live through them. It's true that food co-ops, organic farming, natural childbirth, and other ideas I love were part of the hippie movement, but it's more associated in my mind with rampant use of psychoactive drugs; rebellion -- sometimes violent -- against authority in any form; the complete throwing-over of civilization and restraint in the area of sexual behavior; and very loud music. So it's no wonder I have a hard time fitting Jon into that picture!
He did mean hippy-ness, though I am not sure how complete his definition is since he is four days younger than I am, so probably has similar sorts of thoughts about the 60s as I do, though he is a strong Libertarian, so he would be up for the free drugs/love/etc.
We have a comic strip on our fridge (I think you sent it to us) that says something like: The average home-schooler doesn't have problems 'socializing' with his peers, as long as he remembers to use smaller words and shorter sentences.
The people I knew that were home-schooled when I was young did seem to have problems holding conversations with kids and adults, but later on I met a group of Christian home-schoolers that spent a lot of time together, and they were more "normal", where normal is defined as being able to talk to others, hold a job, etc. so I suspect that if the family makes an effort to not be isolated or secluded, the kids will end up more able to function in society on their own.
We were talking about community living (in the same conversation Heather referred to) and someone made the point that there is a difference in wanting to live in community for fellowship and growing together, versus wanting to live in community for isolation purposes.
I'm speechless. I now know what I'd do if I had $2K and more than a passing fondness for coffee. *** Your views on the 60s, Ms. Wightman, sound VERY much like my mom's. She has a hard time enjoying the Forrest-Gump-style strained, rose-tinted nostalgia for the decade that you run into here and there. *** LOL—your hippy-ness, Jon, sounds something like mine. My political and lifestyle patterns are composed of potentially misleading paradoxes—my interest in fair-trade, sustainable food and "social justice" make me look like a Democrat, but they'd be quite surprised by my views on abortion and homosexuality. And on the flip side, *those* views often lead the cookie-cutter-Evangelical-Christian organizations to assume that I'm also interested in cutting down rainforests to get my SUV to Wal-Mart.
I feel like I need to at least say something, as often as I'm referenced: Bosch is a German manufacturer.
Oops. Thanks, Stephan. That'll teach me not to trust what I read on a random Internet site.... Then again, I still find myself believing what I read in the newspaper, despite repeated evidence to the contrary, so I guess I'm a slow learner. :)
Postscript (May 20): Janet displayed some impressive evidence of successful socialization today by inviting a German ethnologist to join us in our game of frisbee.
Glad to know that qualifies as social skills rather than flirting. He was pretending to read but was watching the game. I'd nearly hit him a few times with the Frisbee. Why not invite him to join?
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