Daniel is three! It’s hard to believe he’s only three. He’s been talking for so long and so well and plays with his older siblings in much the same ways they do. Sure, he drags his feet when it comes time to use the bathroom or put on his shoes, but he’s capable, just likes to take his time . . .
We had family over for his birthday and enjoyed warm sunny weather and play outdoors and in. He didn’t talk as much about his birthday coming up as Vivienne did, but he did keep saying “When I am three, I’m three.” That’s for sure!
From our notes:
He can climb in and out of the play pen (just for fun – Ellie sleeps there).
He is more of a deliberate speaker, but will still substitute English if he doesn’t know the German. For example, “Ich bin share-a das for Ellie.”
Some German grammar spills over to English for a while before getting corrected. “I’ll put it there in.”
He wrote his name! I wrote in all caps and he copied. So fun!
Once Ellie fell and nobody saw it but Daniel. She was bleeding from the mouth and we asked him what happened. He was able, after a few attempts, to describe and show us what happened. That was quite impressive for a not-yet-three-year-old!
Speaking of deliberate speech, I had told Daniel that on his third birthday the potty would disappear and he would use the toilet because three-year-olds don’t need potties. The next day he said “When I am three years old the potty will . . . disatape . . . disappear!”
He often thinks before he talks, which makes it very easy to interrupt him because nobody knows he’s trying to say something. We are more aware of this, however, and that helps. It was quite frustrating for a while to have him suddenly burst out in frustration saying “I’m talking!!” when he had been completely silent!
Daniel loves jumping on our trampoline (indoor, but fairly large and with bungie cords not springs) and running after balls.
He plays very well with Ellie and she loves playing with him. He is still sometimes too rough with her, but not very often, and will apologize right away if he’s hurt her. He was one of the first people Ellie would walk to.
Daniel has started drawing people and making pictures to give to others. He currently saves all of his money (except for some occasional very generous gifts to God) and has over 10 Francs in his savings.
Joseph says he gave Daniel a gorgosaurus for his birthday.
Daniel is quite social and likes people with people, and also hanging out with the grown-ups when they talk.
He is quite deliberate (i.e. slow) in eating, dressing, and all manner of things that adults would rather he be quicker at, but his laid-back nature is a good thing when it comes to sibling difficulties. He can still get quite upset, and he can sometimes use his calm to intentionally push his siblings buttons, but for the most part he is willing to play “peaceably.”
Daniel got a tricycle for his birthday because we realized that thought he can balance just fine on his pedalless bike, he doesn’t know how to pedal.
We are so happy you are part of our family, Daniel! We love you!
Ugh, I have NO notes on Vivienne! She continues to struggle to grow in staying calm and in control, but is wonderfully generous and thoughtful when she is “herself.” She enjoying drawing, painting, dancing, and playing with others.
She loves sitting next to Ellie at meals so she can feed and take care of her.
For project time she often wants to bake, and she always wants to do things with me.
She’s letting her hair grow out (I think that means no more cutting her own hair – phew!) and is patient enough to let me put it in ponytails or I even braided her hair once. Wow, we have a little girl!
So none of my children managed to walk before 13 months, not that it matters, I’m just sayin’ . . . she will take a few steps every few days but she is in no hurry. I think it’s because she’s afraid of some overenthusiastic sibling pushing her over . . .
All of my notes for this month have to do with her mouth. She got her last incisor (lower left) and two upper molars this month.
Ellie says “ciao ciao” and “good night” quite clearly in context.
That’s the end of my notes, but in general she is quite communicative. She’s started signing “please” and “finished” at meals and I really have to get my act together or none of my kids will have learned baby sign despite having minored in sign language in college. I am working through my guilt of not having a second chance to give at least one of my babies all the opportunities I imagined I would before actually becoming a parent . . .
The biggest change this month is that we night-weaned Ellie (using this helpful article as a starting point, for those who’ve asked me). She was ready for it, hardly complaining at all (a few 10 minutes cry sessions was it). She never want to go to bed or back to bed, but if I calmly show her it isn’t time to get up and nurse she cries less than a minute before falling asleep again. I am beside myself with excitement having the bed to myself for the time being. (Stephan is still sleeping with the older kids . . .) I have more energy for the kids when they sleep at night, so we’re all enjoying the changes. Still, it’s weird to think that the baby stage is nearly over – it was SO intense it felt like it was a permanent sentence!
But this is about Ellie, not me. ;) She is no longer deathly afraid of the water – she even walked through the shallow pool holding my hands. She loves playing at the sink while I cook.
She’s still a happy and charming little girl.
This is Daniel’s last month of being a two-year-old. I love two-year-olds! Aside from the toilet needs (he’s actually mostly dry at night but is too busy playing during the day to always make it on time), it’s such a delightful age of discovery and growing ability. He uses the workspace tools alongside the others and mostly knows not to draw or cut furniture and clothing . . .
He is quite able in communication, using full sentences in German and English (no High German yet). He is usually easy to understand despite using “t” for “k” and some other consonant replacements. It makes “trying” and “crying” sound the same, but context is usually enough. He speaks deliberately, which is more like Joseph at that age than Vivienne, our prattler.
What is super sweet is how much he and Ellie get along. When Ellie wakes up she can’t wait to wake up her “dada” and Daniel responds well to her climbing on him as a wake-up. They smile and coo and laugh and it’s the sweetest picture in the world. Often Daniel claims Ellie is saying something that we haven’t noticed, like “Ellie said thanks.”
Whenever the weather has been warm enough Daniel likes to splash in the kiddie pool with Vivienne.
He’s starting to lose his afternoon nap, or I don’t have the patience to make him do it. I’ve started telling the older three they can go where they please during “independent time” but they have to stay quiet, and I retreat to my bedroom for a little rest and down time. It works fairly well and at least I get some rest before they need me again. One of Daniel’s favorite things to do in this time is play Mommy and kid with Vivienne in the attic. Often Daniel is the mommy.
He likes running around, wresting, kicking and throwing balls, and playing with cars.
Argh, again my notes are pathetic.
He calls his bathing suit a “babing soup.”
He watches and learns from everything around him. Joseph has being learning about American money on ABCya.com games and later when Joseph said he wanted to earn a 20 Franc bill he looked at me seriously and said “I want 10 Francs and a dime.”
He is irresistibly cute with his cubby red cheeks and comic manner. He has a slight tendency toward being spoiled, but he’s much better than he was during Grandma and Dad-o’s visit because we are more aware of how he can charm everyone and get away with stuff. The challenges of parenting never go away, do they?
Wow. The baby years are so intense. Now my youngest is over one and I’m not pregnant. It’s like I’m coming up for air for the first time in six years and I can’t believe how much my family has grown – including Stephan and me! What an intense school life is. How sweet the rewards of long and unrewarding hours of comforting babies, disciplining toddlers, loving the kid behind the temper tantrum, and patiently letting them “help” in the kitchen!
Joseph is an able, happy, curious, helpful boy and we are so thankful that we get to cherish life with him! His academic abilities are still advancing at an unusual rate, thanks in large part to online resources that he can navigate himself since he can read. The world is so different from when I homeschooled. I am so excited to experience homeschooling in a whole new way.
Joseph has grown tremendously this year in his social skills. He is still outgoing, but more sophisticated in his “bids” – ways of engaging strangers and friends. He can entertain long hours by himself still, but always enjoys the time he gets to spend with neighborhood kids, folks at church, and visitors.
Joseph wanted to enter 1st grade on his birthday, and I told him he couldn’t do that if he were going to regular school, but in homeschool kindergarten he could decide to be done with kindergarten and start first grade, so I guess our first homeschool year is finished (though officially we have one more week.) He was happy and accepting that he was in homeschool kindergarten and not at a school like all the other kids he knows (I’m working on getting together more often with other homeschoolers – but they aren’t exactly close!). This was a great relief as he was set on going to “Gersag school” – though of course, if you do choose public school you don’t get that sort of choice and neither where we lived before no where we are now would he have been sent to Gersag.
Enough technical stuff. Joseph had a great birthday, enjoying his treasure hunt to his LEGO fire boat and spending the rest of the day putting it together in the new (old) large table in the attic. We had Graham Gem muffins as cake and Stephan took the day off so we could all be together as a family – Joseph’s request.
Most of my notes on Joseph go into the homeschool report, but there are a few from the “Cute Things” list.
Joseph had mono and had a hard time resting enough to recover, but did finally get over it.
“Gave ball back to ellie” – a note Joseph wrote, which goes with the note he wrote in Ellie’s column: “gave Joseph ball”
Wrote an email in Swiss German to Bappe. We’ve never taught him how to write Swiss German. I’m not even sure if he’s seen it, but he did a pretty good job trying phonetically.
Brachiates across the ladder with one hand per rung.
Stumbles onto Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy. Asks, “What is a triolgy?”
Stephan: “A trilogy is three books that belong together.”
Joseph: “But it can be four!”
Stephan: “The Hitchiker’s Guide to the Galaxy is a joke trilogy.”
Joseph: “Why is that funny?”
While he still doesn’t get plenty of jokes, he’s starting to appreciate them – again a sign of social growth!
Joseph still enjoys origami, Legos, biking, reading, things that are fast, cooking, DuoLingo (language learning), ABCya.com games, math drill programs (Big Brainz, Xtra Math), and recently again Khan Academy and much more. Perhaps his favorite thing to do is help Daddy with projects – especially ones involving wood.
Joseph rarely is out of control and when he’s upset he can calm down. He doesn’t feel things as intensely as Vivienne, but can still be quite disappointed. He is good at respectful negotiation, and most of the time has a good attitude. He can ask at any time to earn media time, and more often than not he is willing and able to do the task I set for him, like taking down the recycling to sort or cleaning up his workspace or a room.
My days with Joseph are like having a little adult around. He can entertain himself, help others, and communicate respectfully and well. Of course he has much to learn in terms of competencies and social skills, but he is well on the right path and I enjoy his company very much. Sometimes I feel bad that I have to focus so much attention and energy on the others that I don’t have much quality time with him. He’s left to his own devices a lot, but I am sure that is also good for him. I hope to be more intentional about time with him this year so we can enjoy each other more!
Joseph: When I am six, may I get up at 5am?
Janet: Yes, you may.
Joseph: When I am seven, I want to get up at 4:30am.
Janet: Do you think the older you are the earlier you get up?
Joseph has always been an early riser but I guess my model of early rising is making an impression (though I only get up around 5:15).
Maybe we’ll have more quality time in the mornings! Or maybe I’ll let him binge on media time before breakfast. If he learns that getting up early means getting in the things that are important to him, then maybe that’s not a bad lesson. What do you think?
We love you, Joseph! We look forward to watching you grow in the coming year!
Vivienne started doing simple math!!! This is terribly exciting for me as I feel I’ve neglected her education with all the fuss over Joseph’s early abilities and trying to get permission to homeschool. She’s managed to pick up a good intuition, and though she is not confident in her abilities (who could avoid slipping into the fixed mindset of “my brother is the one who can read and do math – not me”?) she solved several simple problems with either fingers or unit cubes (addition and subtraction less than 10). She did the problems in order to complete a paint-by-numbers sheet.
She is learning that she can learn and that’s the best lesson I can teach!
“I’m learning to be a mommy,” as she munched some salad, “because mommies like salad.”
Vivienne has started to be able to play in the attic by herself during quiet time. More than fifty percent of the time it is still a struggle, but she doesn’t really need the sleep anymore and she is starting to figure out how to use the time on her own. She’s only lasted longer than hour once, though.
Ellie is a year old already. She still feels so tiny! We celebrated by taking all day to put together her gift: a WaterPlay system of canals and locks. Joseph did most of the assembly on his own.
In the evening Stephan’s folks and his sister and the cousins came for playtime and food. Chocolate cupcake crumbs were everywhere and everyone had a great time.
Simple. The joy of family. Collapse into bed! It was a good day for Ellie.
We love you, Ellie! You are bright like your name and spread sunshine over our days! You always wave to your father as he rides to work and insist on watching him from the doorstop as he bikes away. You reach out for hugs when your siblings wake up in the mornings, and you rest your head on your mommy or daddy’s shoulder when you need a little rest and love. We’re so thankful for you!
Ellie can go up and down the stairs easily (she purposefully turns around to go down backwards).
Joseph wrote, “put away dice,” which means she put dice in the square hole I put in the lid of a yogurt container – great entertainment!
Daniel is the only one with a name (besides “mama”) and she calls him “da da.” It is so precious to see her reach out to him when he gets up in the morning or is finished with a nap. She adores him!
“eh eh” means no, but it also means yes if she doesn’t shake her head or if she claps her hands. Hand clapping can also mean she wants to use the potty.
She sometimes joins us in hand-holding for mealtime prayers.
She ways goodbye and says “tsch” and use it once to indicate that she wanted to upstairs and take a nap.
She started walking while holding someone’s hands and loves the activity whenever someone is willing to indulge her.
Her 2nd lower right incisor arrived.
June 14th she started experimenting with standing without holding on to anything. Look ma! No hands! And she is so proud of herself.
She has a conscious, or the desire to please. If I walk in the room and she has something she thinks she’s not supposed to have she startles then offers whatever it was to me with a smile.
Daniel is as cute as ever. His speech continues to develop but he still has some cute sayings.
“e blitzli” (e bitzli – a little)
He can read the numbers on a die.
He usually puts his allowance (15 rappen for each dry night) in his savings because he likes to drop the coins in the slot, but once he kept it long enough to buy a doughnut at Lidl. Joseph and Vivienne also bought a doughnut each that day. It’s a good thing we go shopping in the morning when it’s not too busy. ;)
He zipped his sweater-jacket all by himself.
Vivienne did a handstand (not against a wall). She flops down into a semi-bridge and it looks painful, but she doesn’t seem to mind . . .
She read all the numbers on the 100 chart with just a little help at the multiples of ten.
She can hang by her knees on the brachiation ladder.
She can sing the ABC song. Like the #’s she’s kind of picked things up without much direct work. She doesn’t have the patience/obsession that her brothers do to learn these things, but clearly she learns them in her own way anyway.
“I want to be married with a kind of aminal flower on the ring.”
She learned to ride the bigger bike we got for her.
She can move from one rung of the brachiation to the next. She did it with no swinging – just pure strength.
Goes the length of the brachiation ladder.
Rides Joseph’s bike (Joseph’s note).
Ellie says “bye bye.”
Signs “potty” (though she hasn’t since).
Stood for 1 second without support.
Ellie waves and blows kisses (putting her hand over her mouth) when people say bye or tschuss.
She learned to crawl up and down whole flights of stairs.
I handed Ellie a blue rag (the kind we wipe spills off of the floor with) and she started wiping the floor and looked proud of herself.
“gave Joseph ball” – Joseph’s note. Joseph “gave ball back to Ellie”
Ellie reached up to me and said “mamama.” She often uses “mama” for me now.
Daniel is still super cute, though we only have two notes on him this month.
April: He does and undoes a button.
May: He spilt some oatmeal and exclaimed “Look! It’s Hawaii!”
He’s also made progress on the brachiation ladder. He can hang longer and get to the rung that is second-out on his own.
Joseph is in an origami phase again. Grandma’s visit has also inspired another intense DuoLingo phase (German, French, Turkish – he deleted Swedish for reasons unknown).
He still loves comics. After reading Asterix he was heard saying “What are you doing, you eye-dee-ott?” I told him not to use the word but I didn’t correct the pronunciation . . .
When Stephan was putting the kids to bed alone Ellie needed all his attention so he asked Joseph to lead our nightly devotional – he did!
We still don’t do anything formal with math but Joseph ability continues to grow naturally from whatever topics come up in life. This month he was able to calculate the 10% interest on the kids’ savings. (I know it’s high interest, but we wanted the benefits to be visible.)
The brachiation ladder is a big hit with Joseph. He can go the length, hang from his knees, sit on top, hang and pull his legs up to the next bar, and more. It’s been fun to watch their strength and ability grow by leaps and bounds!
As he was folding a six-pointed star he sang to himself, “Twinkle, twinkle, six-sided star, how I wonder what you are. Up above the world so high, like a six-sided diamond in the sky . . .”
It’s been an eventful month for Ellie. The bad news she sleeps much worse than she ever did. I blame the move and many other little factors. I keep telling myself the baby and lack-of-sleep phase is almost over for us and to be patient with the bad and enjoy the good.
Ellie often prefers to sit in a V, only going back to the W when something (i.e. a sibling) threatens her stability.
She climbed up a few stairs earlier in the month and now she can go up a whole flight on her own and is so proud of herself. I can no longer get work done with her awake because she goes straight to the stairs. She does a good job, but the spiral nature of our stairs make them not fall-friendly.
She climbed all the way up the foam ramp we got her for Christmas. I’m pretty convinced that that and the foam steps helped her learn stair-smarts and that’s why she’s doing so well with the stairs (she knows to back down them).
She cruised along the balance beam.
She can drink from a sippy cup on her own, lifting it to her mouth enough for the water to come out.
She cruised from one object to the next.
She likes to walk with the rolling cart (not meant for kids) and does a great job balancing herself and falling down to her knees when it goes too fast.
In the past few days we’ve seen her let go and stand on her own for brief moments. Will she be our earliest walker?
She is interacting with people more and more with big smiles and attempts at words. She shakes her head for no and waves “bye bye.”
Despite being in disposable diapers her entire life (I was just too tired to try EC) she’s suddenly using the potty and has great awareness of her elimination needs. I plan to stay relaxed about it, but it’s great that warmer months are coming so she can just go around in a cloth diaper without anything on her legs. Siblings are inspiring, too, I’m sure.
Vivienne counted to 20 on her own without mistakes. It took a few months, but she self-corrected the mistake she’s had for a long time. So fun to see how different kids learn numbers!
She isn’t as interested in geography puzzles as her brothers, but she knows a fair amount nonetheless. She did a US click-and-drag puzzle on ABCya.com on her own.
She tightened all the loose screws on the rolling cart on her own (I suggested she do it and gave her a screwdriver).
At the store the other day she picked out two croissants to buy with her own money. She put it on the belt and paid for them herself then shared one with her brother. I bought a croissant for me and Daniel so we would all have one when we got home. Generosity inspires generosity. Or are they spoiled? I always see both sides . . .
Vivienne likes to sit at the edge of our yard looking at our neighbor’s yard, hoping to catch a glimpse of the 6-year-old girl M who lives there. M also enjoy playing with her, so with the warmer weather they’ve been seeing each other more. All the kids adore the neighbor kids, and the neighbor kids are great with them. We are very thankful!
Stephan and Dad-o built a brachiation ladder for the kids room. I can hardly believe this long-time dream of mine is complete! The kids use it a bit throughout the day and their progress in just a few days is amazing! Vivienne would climb up the side ladders but said she was too young to hang (she fell the first time she tried what Joseph did). Now she swings back and forth and sits on top and climbs the length on top. Daniel wouldn’t climb it at all, but now he can climb and hang from the first run both forwards and backwards and get back down on his own. He’s climbed to the top and sat on it, too! It is SO amazing what kids can do with time, no pressure to perform, and an interesting environment! Thank you Daddy and Dad-o!!!!!
Gashes his right cheek on a book corner while diving after a toy car. It’s healed now but has left an impressive scar.
Our memory verse is Matthew 11:28-30 and Daniel likes to “read” it after we’ve recited it. He says “my yoke is easy and my bird is light.”
He can control the mouse for slecting what to watch on Grandma’s Treasure Chest. His current favorite is the US States. He can sing nearly the whole States song, with some confusion between the North Carolina and South Carolina parts. He can do the puzzle, and loves it.
Daniel completed a two-step command to earn media time. I told him to pee and then put the US puzzle together and he did!
Poor Daniel has hit hard when we were sick the end of March. He slept a lot and was pretty miserable with a cough, fever and ear infection. It’s lovely to have our lively Daniel back!
Daniel is still a ham and he loves getting a good laugh. Since our visitors are here he’s be playing it up even more and it’s become clear that he can get away with some things he otherwise wouldn’t because he is so cute and hilarious. He particularly likes getting a good laugh out of Dad-o. They enjoy rough-housing together. We’ll have to be careful it doesn’t turn into a discipline problem, though.
Any advice on dealing with cute kids that can charm their way into anyone’s heart and get away with stuff?